Abuse Is Wrong In Any Culture: for First Nations and Métis people
What if I decide to stay?
Sometimes you may be told that you have to keep the family together particularly if you are a woman ... no matter what happens, or how bad things get. You may be told that is what your parents and grandparents always did. Women, and sometime men, face pressures to stay with violent or abusive partners, from their own family and from their partner's family. They may be told that it is against God's will for them to leave, or against their cultural teachings.
In many communities, people are blamed and put down if they talk about abuse or if they leave their partner. In many places, no one tells them that abuse is wrong and that it's most often a crime. It is hard to leave, even for a short time. It's really hard to take children out of their own homes, and in small communities, there can be nowhere else to go to be safe.
It's hard to leave when you still love them. You're not alone if you feel this way, and it isn't wrong or bad to keep loving them. Many people want to stay with their partner ... they just want the violence to stop. They hope with all their heart that they will just change into a caring and loving spouse or partner. You and your partner will need help to change so that you can both stay together and be safe.
If you are injured, you should get medical treatment. You do not have to tell anyone what caused the injuries. But it's easier to treat your injuries if you tell the nurse or doctor exactly what happened. They will also be able to tell you where to get help and support for your home situation.
It is a good idea to start thinking about, and planning, an Emergency escape—in case you need to leave quickly.
Your children's lives and your own life may depend on it!
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